Codependency Self-Assessment

This quiz is a self-reflection tool for educational purposes. It does not diagnose any condition and is not medical advice. If you’re in immediate danger or experiencing abuse, consider contacting local emergency services or a trusted support resource.

Over the last 6–12 months, how true is each statement?

1. I feel responsible for other people’s emotions.
   0 1 2 3 4
2. I have trouble saying no, even when I want to.
   0 1 2 3 4
3. I often put my needs last to avoid conflict.
   0 1 2 3 4
4. I worry a lot about being disliked or abandoned.
   0 1 2 3 4
5. I over-explain or try to “prove” my point to be understood.
   0 1 2 3 4
6. I feel guilty when I set boundaries.
   0 1 2 3 4
7. I try to fix, manage, or rescue people close to me.
   0 1 2 3 4
8. I ignore red flags because I hope things will improve.
   0 1 2 3 4
9. I feel anxious when someone I care about is upset with me.
   0 1 2 3 4
10. I “earn” love through helping, doing, or being useful.
    0 1 2 3 4
11. I struggle to identify what I feel in the moment.
    0 1 2 3 4
12. I stay in relationships longer than is healthy out of loyalty or fear.
    0 1 2 3 4
13. I compromise my values to keep peace.
    0 1 2 3 4
14. I take things personally and replay conversations in my head.
    0 1 2 3 4
15. I feel more focused on others than on my own goals.
    0 1 2 3 4
16. I avoid asking for help, but I’m quick to help others.
    0 1 2 3 4
17. I feel uneasy when things are calm—like something must be wrong.
    0 1 2 3 4
18. I fear being “too much” or “not enough.”
    0 1 2 3 4
19. I feel responsible for keeping the relationship stable.
    0 1 2 3 4
20. When I’m stressed, I neglect sleep, health, or basic self-care.
    0 1 2 3 4

Your results

Total score: 0 / 80

Practical next steps (secular + skills-based)

Tip: Pick 1–2 statements you scored 3–4 on and write one boundary or request you could practice this week.

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